After weight-loss surgery, I found I had to work on mindset changes—and
one of them included dealing with my "all-or-nothing" mentality.
We have all experienced it. It's called "yo-yo" dieting.
We starve ourselves in order to lose weight. Then we feel deprived and
we "go off our diet". We eat dessert or French fries. Then we
feel guilty and announce defeat. We miss a day or two of exercise, we
feel like a failure, we give up, and we throw in the towel.Let's face
it, we're not perfect. There will always be times when we give in
to temptation. There are somethings I can't change, but I can change
myself. After surgery, I found it best to re-focus. A little flexibility
keeps thing running smoothly. Things that bend, don't break as easily!
I began to establish a flexible plan, which included concentrating on
healthy diet and activity throughout my week, with an occasional treat
and an occasional rest from time to time. Ideally, I'd like to schedule
myself a run 3 times each week but as we all know, life is not ideal so
sometimes I can only commit to one, and on rare occasions I may get in
four. If I happen to miss a week from time to time, I don't stress
over it, I just keep going. When I feel I need a change from the routine,
I go to a Zumba class.
I must also commit to walking or other calorie-burning activities during
the week. Recently, I have gotten a little slack, but I'm not throwing
in the towel. I realize my need to get back with the program, make a commitment,
pick up where I left off, and get back with the plan. Success is about
consistency over the long-haul. When I take an occasional bite or two
of dessert, I plan for it. "When" I eat dessert, and "how
much" (or "how little") I eat is intentional. Therefore
it's a scheduled part of my plan—no guilt, no worries, no feeling
deprived, no giving up. Jillian Michaels says it this way, “Part
of abandoning the all-or-nothing mentality is allowing yourself room for
setbacks. We are bound to have lapses on the road to health and wellness,
but it is critical that we learn how to handle small failures positively
so that we can minimize their long-term destructive effects. One setback
is one setback—it is not the end of the world, nor is it the end
of your journey toward a better you."
Let's "let go" of the all-or-nothing mindset and get back
to balance. Let's make a workable and flexible plan, and focus on
long-term success—not on short-term mishaps. Yes, we can. We have
many more miles to go!